When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things – 1 Corinthians 13:11
Listening to my monthly audiobook, Don’t Settle For Safe by Sara Jakes Roberts, I picked up a nugget to share. Sarah describes how she felt growing up in a “stable home” and the lessons earned. If you aren’t familiar, Sara is the daughter of Bishop T.D. Jakes. While being raised by two parents with her siblings, in what seemed like the ideal family structure, Sara explains how she still struggled with fitting in, her identity, and self esteem. I believe many of us can relate to Sara’s confessions…
We resent the security we have at home because it alienates us from our peers. (Many times kids with stable homes, who have more rules or structure are often ridiculed and made fun of for not being cool enough or having freedom to hang out)
We distance ourselves from the privileges that our parents sacrificed for because we want to do things on our own. (Many times we discount our parents knowledge and experience because we believe we know a better way and want to figure things out independently)
We reject the support we have at home which robs us of the widsom and tools that make our life journies easier. (Many times we misunderstand the discipline and rules at home. While discipline and rules are meant to guide us, we confuse them with ill will or lack of support)
It’s sad that we don’t fully understand or recognize the value of the life style our parents provide for us, until it’s too late. Whether we grow up in a two parent home or a single parent home, we should appreciate the sacrifice and guidance we recieve from our families, even if it looks different than what we want or what others appear to have. We should focus less on what we think we missed and more on the lessons, securities and comforts we experienced!
Your future self will thank you!
Peace. Blessings. Love.